Starting Back at School

Supporting Your Child’s Transition with Confidence

The beginning of a new school year or your child’s first day at kindergarten is an exciting milestone, but it can also bring nerves or anxiety for both children and parents. Transitions like these can feel overwhelming, but with thoughtful preparation, you can help your child feel secure and ready for this new adventure. Here are some practical steps to support your child in the lead-up to school next week and on that all-important first day.

Create Predictability with Routines

Children thrive on predictability, especially during times of change. Use the weekend to establish a simple morning and evening routine that mirrors what school days will look like. For example, practice getting up, having breakfast, and packing a bag at the same time you would on a school day. A predictable routine helps ease uncertainty and gives children a sense of control over their day.

Validate Their Feelings

It’s natural for children to feel a mix of emotions about starting school. Encourage them to share their worries or excitement, and respond with empathy. Phrases like, “It’s okay to feel nervous, starting something new can feel tricky,” or, “I wonder if you’re feeling a little unsure because you don’t know what to expect,” help children feel heard and understood. Validation builds trust, emotional resilience and fosters connection.

Visit the School Together

If possible, take a trip to the school or kindergarten before the first day. Walk around the playground, locate the classroom, and even practise the drop-off process. This helps familiarise your child with the environment and reduces the fear of the unknown (Siegel & Bryson, 2011). Many schools provide transition programs or orientations, use these opportunities to build familiarity.

Prepare a Comfort Item

For younger children or those feeling particularly anxious, a small comfort item, like a family photo or a special object, can be a source of reassurance. Packing a little note in their lunchbox with a loving message, such as, “I’m so proud of you,” can also remind them of your support.

Focus on Connection Before Separation

On the morning of the first day, spend a few minutes connecting with your child. This might be through play, reading a favourite book together, or a big hug. Dr. Daniel Siegel’s concept of “connection before direction” highlights the importance of creating a secure base before tackling new challenges.

Be Calm and Confident

Children look to their parents for cues on how to feel about situations. Model calmness and confidence, even if you’re feeling nervous yourself. A simple and upbeat goodbye, paired with reassurance like, “I know you’re going to have a great day,” helps set a positive tone. If you feel emotional, wait until after the drop-off to process those feelings.

Seek Support if Needed

If your child’s anxiety feels overwhelming or persists beyond the first few weeks, it might help to seek additional support. Child-centred play therapy is a gentle and effective way to help children process big feelings and build confidence. At Inspiring Play: Child and Family Play Therapy Sunshine Coast, we’re here to support you and your child through this transition.

Starting school is a significant milestone, and your support can make all the difference in how your child navigates this change. By fostering connection, creating routines, and validating their feelings, you’re laying the groundwork for a positive start. Remember, transitions take time, and it’s okay to ask for help if you or your child needs extra support.

Wishing you and your child a smooth and joyful start to the school year!