Managing the Holiday Season
Managing the Holiday Season as a Mum to Neurodivergent Children
The holiday season is often described as “the most wonderful time of the year,” but for many families, it can also bring challenges. As a mum to neurodivergent children, I know firsthand how this season’s mix of excitement and overwhelm can affect both parents and kids. While the festive decorations, social gatherings, and holiday traditions can be joyful, they can also feel overstimulating for young children and even for us as parents. Grounded in the principles of Child-Centred Play Therapy, here are some tips to help you navigate this busy time of year with compassion and intention.
Balance Excitement with Downtime
Neurodivergent children often feel excitement more intensely, which can quickly tip into overwhelm. Scheduling moments of calm between festive activities is essential. Quiet time at home with a favourite book, sensory play or a soothing activity like colouring can offer your child a much-needed reset. Getting outside in nature for a bushwalk or beach swim is also a wonderful way to regulate emotions and recharge. Nature provides a grounding environment that can help children (and parents) find balance amidst the holiday buzz.
Set Realistic Expectations
It’s okay if your family doesn’t participate in every activity or event. If your child struggles with transitions or sensory overload, consider simplifying your holiday commitments. For example, attending a single celebration or opting for quieter alternatives, such as a picnic with close family, can reduce stress. Remember, meaningful moments don’t have to look like everyone else’s. Giving yourself permission to say “no” can make all the difference in creating a season that feels manageable.
Create a Predictable Rhythm
Neurodivergent children often thrive with routine, which can be disrupted during the holidays. To provide a sense of stability, create a visual calendar or schedule that includes both special events and familiar daily activities. Letting your child know what to expect can help them feel more secure and less anxious about changes in their environment.
Tune into Your Child’s Needs
The principles of Child-Centred Play Therapy remind us to see the world through our child’s eyes. When your child shows signs of overstimulation, whether through meltdowns, withdrawal, or heightened emotions, respond with curiosity and empathy. Simple phrases like, “I see this feels like too much right now” or “Let’s take a break together” validate their experience and build trust. Offering a calming space, like a quiet corner with soft cushions or a weighted blanket, can also be a game-changer.
Practice Self-Compassion as a Parent
This season can stretch your patience and energy. It’s important to remind yourself that you’re doing your best. If things don’t go as planned or you feel overwhelmed, give yourself the same kindness you’d offer a friend. The holidays don’t need to be perfect, they just need to work for your family. Seeking support, whether from friends, loved ones, or professionals, can also help lighten the load.
The holiday season is a time to create connection and memories, but it doesn’t have to come at the cost of your family’s well-being. By prioritising calm moments, honouring your child’s unique needs, and giving yourself grace, you can make this season both joyful and manageable.
Sunshine Coast Play Therapy at Inspiring Play
If you’re looking for more personalised support, reach out to Inspiring Play: Child and Family Play Therapy Sunshine Coast. We’re here to walk alongside you and your family during this season and beyond. We’re here to help parents navigate challenges with compassion and confidence.