Managing Struggles Through Problem-Solving
Helping Children Manage Struggles Through Problem-Solving
As parents, it’s natural to want to step in and fix challenges when our child is struggling. But meaningful problem-solving, the kind that nurtures resilience and emotional intelligence, works best when both the child and the adult are calm. Research highlights that children learn most effectively when they feel secure and connected (Landreth & Nordling, 2006). Before jumping to solutions, we must first support our child’s emotions with empathy and validation.
Timing Matters: When to Introduce Problem-Solving
Problem-solving is not effective when a child is overwhelmed or distressed. In these moments, their brain is focused on emotional survival rather than logical thinking (Siegel & Bryson, 2012). Instead of offering solutions right away, prioritise connection: acknowledge your child’s feelings, reassure them, and allow time for regulation. Only once both of you feel calm should you explore possible solutions together.
Guiding Your Child Towards Solutions
When your child is calm and ready, problem-solving can be a collaborative and empowering process. Here are some ways to support them in thinking through challenges:
Offer simple choices: “Would you like to eat your lunch at the dining table or have a picnic outside today?”
Encourage their own ideas: “What do you think might help solve this problem?”
Consider role models: “Can you think of someone you admire? What might they do?”
Reflect on past experiences: “Have we had this problem before? What worked/helped last time?”
Explore different possibilities: “Let’s think of three different ways we could handle this. Which one feels best to you?”
Break it into steps: “What’s the very first thing we could do to make this easier?”
Problem-solve together: “Next time we’re feeling rushed, what could we do differently?”
Encouraging Independence and Confidence
Supporting children in finding their own solutions builds self-trust and confidence. Child-Centred Play Therapy emphasises that children thrive when given space to lead and explore their own problem-solving abilities (Cochran, Nordling, & Cochran, 2010). Rather than providing immediate answers, we can guide them through the process, reinforcing their sense of capability.
Seeking Support
If your child is finding it difficult to manage emotions or problem-solve, seeking professional support can be valuable. At Inspiring Play: Child and Family Play Therapy Sunshine Coast, we offer a safe and nurturing space where children can build emotional resilience through play. If you need guidance, reach out, we’re here to help.
Helping children navigate their struggles with patience and support sets them up with lifelong skills. By teaching them how to problem-solve when they’re calm, we empower them to face challenges with confidence and self-awareness.